Time wife came home and was like a robot sex seemed normal if not quieter than usual but as she suffers from depression she often gets cold every so often and when I asked her if she was doing all right she chalked it up to. That well two weeks ago she leaves for work and as it was my day off I putted around the house dropped the boy off at school and came home to check my email on facebook I saw that I had a message from her cousin. He and I had recently discussed going out to see a farm team baseball game and I thought he was getting back to me the message reads I'd like to see you on your knees I was confused as hell until I realized that my wife. Was still signed in and it was her he was talking to I wanted to kill him I instantly rushed and read through their chat log and is filled with him creeping on her and. While she is saying things like but I married and now I'm married these read like very thin nose like she is saying no because she has to not because she wants to I'm disgusted and absolutely floored about it.
But since none of them mention anything happening yet and she is denying him albeit kindly I can't exactly say she's cheating. Well when she gets home and our son is put to bed I confront her over the situation she instantly breaks down into hysterics and tears saying things like I didn't do anything I didn't know how to tell you I was just hoping he stopped. Now she and I both suffered childhood sexual abuse from family friends we both went to years of therapy for it and for that reason we have very good communication skills when it comes to comfort and boundaries and how to express ourselves about unwanted advances. I love her and I wanted to believe her and that he was just being a creep but the way she didn't tell me and acted seemingly normal leads me to believe something else was going on I told her that I believed her and asked. Her if I could message him to tell him to back off and how disgusted I am that they are cousins or if she would prefer to tell him and handle it herself she.
First expressed that she would tell him that I knew and not to call her but her resolve cracked as she was confident this would just stop I was furious about that but didn't express it and told her that knowing she was going to I. Was going to give him a piece of my mind this is my wife if she's being harassed I will end it and if she's not being harassed she's cheating on me so I messaged him he saw it. But made no reply the wife says I should have let her handle the situation and I told her there was no way I was going to keep quiet in the face of this she seemed to understand and expressed in the end that I was. Probably right to confront him because she didn't know how all seemed to return to normal but three days later I come home and she's crying I ask her what's wrong and she said it's max you should have let me handle it I messaged him. Yesterday and he won't talk to me we had the conversation again about me not sitting idly by when somebody is harassing my wife she gave me a look it wasn't much and it was only for a second.