Of the previous posts but as it is relevant to today's therapeutic typing lesson I'll get into that just a little as I go on if this is the. First of my posts you're reading the tldr is as follows I accidentally discovered via facebook that my soon-to-be ex-wife was engaged in sexual affairs with her cousin max I informed max's wife of the trouble and she went nuclear exposing our partners through all of. This max's wife and I have begun casually dating as it turns out we're quite attracted to each other I filed for divorce. Yesterday went down to the courthouse and spoke with bailiff sheriff the person on the other side of the counter and filled out the needed paperwork my soon-to-be ex-wife and I in an effort to end this quickly have decided against lawyers and have agreed on. Who gets what was no mediation needed well we tried to go to the courthouse today and have her served immediately after I turned in the paperwork we were trying to avoid the cop coming to her home or a place of work to serve her.
I'm usually pretty level-headed about things soon to be x is also calm and collected which is not at all how she normally is she seems almost as eager as me to get it done turns out she can't be served in the way we wanted. To save time and so I had to drive her home to her folks I asked her how things were going despite all this her facade breaks a little and through some tears she tells me she's doing fine with me gone and only really feels. Bad when my stepson starts asking for me or gets sad that I'm not around she comes clean that she's actually been unhappy being married to me since before we even got married she didn't resent me or hate me she just wasn't in love with. Me anymore our sex life wasn't the best we're both very attractive and sexual people but we stopped being on the same page a while ago and we both knew that I like to pursue I hate to be chased she loves to pursue and hates. To be chased something was bound to break and we had several talks in our marriage about this for a while we switched up our roles so we could both get what we wanted.
But after a while it just turned into me sacrificing my sexual desires to only have sex in the way she wanted to some of the things she wanted me to do I never really liked and never got better at and seemingly out of spite. The things I was good at she spurned meanwhile she would seldom if ever take my requests this time went on in the middle of our relationship we had a female live-in roommate that we had a mutual attraction for and under a strict set of. Guidelines and rules she became someone we frequently had encounters with for a time that put a band-aid on things but soon to be x and I we're a good team we're good at communicating our finances and we're good at parenting as we make sure. To never undermine each other and always present a united front we enjoy the same movies we're both artistically inclined I a writer and she an illustrator we had a million things in common that made us best friends a good team. But the sexual problems were always there while this third woman was in the relationship that tension was gone and we worked perfectly together as those frustrations and needs were met by a third party.