Now the second monday of december my kids are with their grandparents to celebrate christmas where are we scheduled to both join them. Today so anyway she tries to start this conversation during breakfast like it's just a thought out of the blue to ask me what I think about an open relationship luckily. I was prepared I was already recording I had been reading a lot here on reddit and I knew there is really no way of saving this my best possible outcome is to get out of this with some sliver of pride and self-esteem intact from here on out it's all about protecting myself and the kids. I didn't scream or yell I just went directly into jaw-clenched interrogation mode she was all cocky up until this point but that evaporated immediately when she saw the look on my face who is he what do you mean treasure look innocent like she didn't understand if you want to have this conversation with me don't treat me like an idiot and at least you can be honest if you can't be honest what's the point in this conversation what do you mean if you lie to me. Now we cannot have the discussion you want to have about our relationship I can tell that you are hiding something it's obvious so who is the guy you are screwing.
I am not oh my god it's more than one don't just don't effing lie you have just totally destroyed my trust in you I can tell you are lying either you are honest and we walk this through or I divorce you our marriage ends right. Now no arguments no discussion no nothing just divorce do you understand but say it do you understand do you understand that if you lie I will divorce you say it do you understand that I already know a lot. I can read you like a book if I catch you lying we are over tell me you understand I I I understand she proceeds to tell me about two one-night stands while out with her friends. I ask about their names if they are married if she wore protection etc they are both married men with kids. Then she tells me she is planning to sleep with a colleague at work and that she intends to pursue this since it's good for her and that I don't have any right to control her what the f.
I ask about the colleague as well and get his name his wife's name he is married but according to her in an open relationship like she wants us to be she continues that she will set me up with some of her friends one of them are really keen apparently what in the actual f. I have seen this friend and I wouldn't touch her with a barge pole I tell her I am not interested I asked for her phone and she shows me the pattern to open it while she went to the bathroom. I locked myself in my office she freaks out and while she was banging on the door I ran recovery software on the phone for deleted content and ended up with lots of painful evidence 30 minutes. Later I also installed a spying app from an online service when I came out I gave her the phone and told her to leave she argued a lot. I didn't really respond beyond single word responses she didn't seem remorseful at all through all of this she was yelling at me that I was acting controlling holding her back like men always held women back that I never loved her that she had every right to do this that she expected me to just accept this that it wasn't a big deal etc.