I decided to stop listening to the nonsense I created in my head to keep my wife's control over me and move on entirely from the idea of her I will not be dating her or giving us another chance we are over. For good I like to say that my wife isn't a villain and that is true. I want her to be happy as well but it will never be with me she has shown me that I have called obs. Today and offered her dinner after the holidays for her support when I absolutely hit rock bottom. She said she would love to I know this stuff doesn't happen often but we really supported each other throughout all this and I owe her thanks before people start talking about how much I.
Planned this with obs I honestly did not my emotions have been so screwed up this few years. That the very thought of another woman never crossed my mind and it's dinner nothing else unless we both want it but the closer divorce gets and the more I realize I actually have. Options and one option has been right there what about om I don't give a fly on flip about that dude. I do not think I will marry again and I will tell this to any woman although my divorce hasn't been much of a hassle I am losing a lot of money. Still the whole idea of marriage just seems like a sham to me now sorry for being so cynical right now I don't want this post to offend anyone but I'm still jaded I gave my best years.
To this woman and I'm starting to realize how little I got back. Update Four: Officially Divorced Plus the Date with OBS. It's over my ex and I have officially separated for good it happened almost three weeks ago for the better part of a few days after the fact I grieved like I lost a loved one I think it hit. Me extremely hard that my marriage failed so spectacularly never cried that hard ever since I discovered the affair in the first place I raged a lot too. Definitely one of my lowest points everything has been organized for my ex partially on my part for the kid's sake.
She moved out of the house and I'm looking to buy her out of her part of it she lives in an apartment now. Very big downgrade for her and it pretty much depresses her she's still going to the therapist still invested in reading and studying. Infidelity don't know exactly why we've had long talks leading to and after the divorce minimal physical contact. I know I shouldn't entertain her now but she's still the mother of my kids and I want us to be good co-parents I'm. Nothing if not logical about the situation largely thanks to this community and others of course it's the same tune she wants to reconcile and I think it's too risky for me to put myself in that situation again.