I have asked my wife what she thought the outcome of all this was she said she was going with the flow and acted completely out of character. She is not that person anymore I told her she's an idiot people around me are calling me evil for not giving my wife another chance. My kids know what's going on age appropriate and they are behind me 100 but like it if we stay together my resolve is slipping. Coupled by the fact that we still live in the same house and my wife is going to therapy and reading the book I bought. It's getting harder to stick to my guns she says she's remorseful and will do whatever it takes all I tell her is that she's sorry she.
Got caught and that's all I need to know she's called me a bitter resentful person who can't look past all the negativity. She apologized for it later but I know that's how she feels the boss's wife and I still talk and my wife absolutely hates that she thinks I'm going to have a revenge. Affair or her boss's wife is the reason I will not give us another chance she asked me repeatedly to initiate no contact with her boss's wife. Just like she did with her boss I told her she's crazy we didn't do anything wrong why should I respect your opinions now. See I think I'm done I have no respect for her she still doesn't want to give up and is actively trying to engage with me about her thoughts and processes to her affair.
I see them as excuses so I don't entertain her she wants me to do therapy with her I read many places where the therapist. Blames the victim so I was like hell no she wants me to read infidelity books with her what is the point for going to divorce anyway. She wants to be intimate I told her she was not going to manipulate me with sex. She says it's not manipulation and she just wants to show me how much she loves me. I corrected and said love me now we mean people around me are frustrated with me even my mom because they say people make mistakes and my wife.
Realizes through her mistakes that she truly does love me I told people that I will never be anyone's fallback plan. I feel very bad for treating her the way I do I still love her even though there's hate there am I being unnecessarily cruel to her she's trying really hard but I just. Don't care should I reconsider the divorce people are saying I'm moving too quickly and I will regret it. Is that true I don't know what's real? And what's not.
Update One. My wife and I are in sort of a good place right now it is not because we are reconciling no I'm still divorcing her the last. Update I posted which was taken down by the auto mod explained in great detail our situation the short version is my wife is still. Begging for another chance and is doing whatever it takes to get it I will not give it to her because her affair was way too long for me to get. Over if it had been a one night stand that.